Why should anyone else be the
Master of your Destiny?
It's all about you.
It's all about choices.
Some
people talk a lot about the kind
of life they'd like to have. Other
people do something to make it
happen. Which kind are you?
Deciding to Take a Chance on
Yourself
About
ten years ago, a friend of mine
named Melissa made a decision
that changed her life. Her school
counselor offered her the chance
to become an exchange student
in Europe. She would be living
in Germany, France, and Denmark,
learning all about each country's
customs, meeting new people, and
picking up some of each language.
No one in Melissa's family had
ever traveled far out of the state
they lived in. Her parents were
skeptical, and told her that she
should forget it-they didn't have
any extra money to help her with
such foolishness. In fact, no
one in Melissa's working-class
neighborhood had ever considered
going to Europe. They just hoped
they'd have enough money to pay
the rent each month and buy groceries
each week.
Melissa knew it would be easier
to stay home, to keep working
part-time and going to school
part-time. "After all,"
she thought, "who do I think
I am? I really don't know what
to expect. I don't know any foreign
languages. I'd probably just make
a fool of myself." If Melissa
went to Europe for a year, she
wouldn't be able to work, and
she'd be spending the money she'd
worked so hard to save. It would
be her first time ever away from
her family and friends, too. What
if she got homesick? And the thing
that scared her most was that
when she came back from her adventure,
she'd be broke. She'd have to
live at home and rely on her parents
until she could get a job and
save enough to move out.
Still,
she couldn't quite forget the
idea. Why shouldn't it
be her? After going endlessly
back and forth, she finally decided
to take the risk. She could always
come back early if she hated it.
She called her school counselor,
who was delighted when Melissa
said "Sign me up!"
The counselor was about the only
one who seemed happy. Melissa's
family offered no support, emotionally
or financially, and her friends
just laughed when she said she
was going to Europe. They finally
realized she was serious when
she closed out her savings account
and asked the counselor to drive
her to the airport. "We'll
see you in a couple of weeks,"
her dad laughed as she walked
to the car.
Lessons
Learned
The trip began poorly. The airline
bumped Melissa's entire group,
and told them they'd have to wait
until the next day to leave. Although
she had never flown before, Melissa
decided if she didn't leave that
very day, she'd chicken out completely.
She went from one ticket counter
to another until she found a connection,
spending 10 hours in the airport
before leaving on her first-ever
flight. It took so long and she
was so nervous that she began
to wonder if she should have listened
to her parents and her friends
after all. When she arrived in
Germany the next afternoon, she
was exhausted. She guessed that
the weird sleep-deprived feeling
she was experiencing was what
people called jet lag. Oddly,
it pleased her somehow to know
first-hand what it was. No one
back home knew what jet lag felt
like! She handed the address of
her new apartment to the taxi
driver, and paid him in Euros
when he dropped her off. Then
she slept for a long, long time.
The
next day, Melissa began exploring
her new neighborhood. She wasn't
nervous at all. She found her
way to the nearest travel agency
and bought a train pass. Nearly
everyone spoke English and seemed
helpful, and the trains made it
easy to get around.
The
next week, she ventured further-to
Switzerland. She went alone because
the other students in her group
were apprehensive about traveling
outside the "base" country.
Melissa wasn't exactly radiating
confidence herself, but she wanted
to see as much as she could during
her time in Europe, and the only
way to do that was to summon up
her courage and go. She loved
learning what was beyond the sheltered
world she had left behind. She
found that all she really needed
was common sense and a map. From
then on, when Friday came, Melissa
was packing her bag for another
destination. She saw the ruins
at Rome, the Eiffel Tower, and
even the great pyramids in Egypt.
Sometimes she felt like she must
be dreaming-that she'd wake up
from this new feeling of independence,
freedom, accomplishment and success.
But she was wide awake, and enjoying
every minute.
Melissa's year of travel was a
year of revelation for her. As
she studied different cultures
and met so many new people, she
realized she had always had an
adventurous spirit and a thirst
for knowledge. And if Melissa
had decided to stay in the US,
she would never have met her
future husband. She helped
him run his restaurant in Berlin-a
new enterprise they enthusiastically
shared, and with great success.
They stayed in Germany for another
year before they returned to the
States. As it turned out, Melissa
was far from being broke!
So
what's the lesson here? People
who don't take risks don't go
far. People who let others make
their decisions for them are rarely
happy. And fear is what
keeps 99% of people from leading
fulfilled, successful lives. You
don't have to let that happen
to you. Figure out what you want,
and then go for it!
What
You Need To Know
You
should be steering your own ship.
While there will always be some
factors that are out of your hands,
it makes little sense to worry
about what you can't change. Instead,
worry about what you can
control - you
and your actions and
your thinking.
Points
To Remember:
Be
receptive to all possibilities.
Most new ideas sounded crazy the
first time they were introduced.
Fear
of failure can be very powerful.
It can cause you to stay in a
rut, to procrastinate, and to
miss out on opportunities to change
your life. If you are dominated
by fear, learn to be brave.
Realize
that risk-taking is a necessary
part of success. Learning to negotiate
risks leads to more self-confidence
and more triumphs along the road
to the life you would like to
lead.
Always
be on the lookout for new opportunities.
Define success for yourself. Most
people believe it's about finding
inner peace, satisfaction and
emotional balance, as well as
financial stability. You can't
achieve those unless you start
thinking out of the box. You have
to be willing to take some risks.
You must be willing to step out
of your "comfort zone."
This applies to business as well
as to your personal life.
Some
Of The Pillars Of Success:
Plan
your work, and work your plan!
Make
every effort to be the best you
can be at what you do. Don't compare
yourself to others. Set your own
goals.
When
you make a commitment, stick to
it!
Acknowledge
that disappointments are part
of life. Instead of allowing setbacks
to keep you from moving ahead,
overcome them and forge ahead.
This will make you stronger.
Remember
that every experience, whether
good or bad, can be a learning
experience. It's all in what you
take from it.
Live
each day as if it were your last;
have no regrets.
Some
Final Words
..
So
have you decided yet if you're
a talker or a doer?
Do you wait for
things to happen to you at the
whim of others, or do you make
them happen? Are you just thinking
about how great your future could
be if only...? There is
no better time than right now
to stop just thinking about
making a change that will secure
your future success and time.
Right now is the time to do
something about it. Starting
a home based business is one of
the easiest first steps you can
take to begin working on your
financial independence.
You may have heard people derisively
say, "Oh, she's only looking
out for number one." But
be honest. If you don't look out
for yourself first, who will?
Are you ready to take control
of your own destiny-to look out
for number one? I can help you
find the path to success, but
you need to make the decision
to take the first step down that
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to success today. Like my friend
Melissa, you will discover a whole
new way of life that you never
imagined-and a sense of independence,
confidence and accomplishment
that is beyond your fondest dreams.